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I recently came across a profound framework shared by Professor Peng Kaiping, Dean of Psychology at Tsinghua University. His approach goes beyond feeling good—it’s about doing good, and through that, achieving well-being.He calls it the Five Giving Practices:&nbsp;🗣️ Kind words (言施)&nbsp;👀 Compassionate eye contact (眼施)&nbsp;😊 A warm smile (颜施)&nbsp;🤝 Helpful actions (身施)&nbsp;💛 Empathy and care from the heart (心施)To make this globally relatable, I’ve adapted it into the SHINE Method—a simple, memorable guide for cultivating positivity in work and life:🌟 Smile – Offer warmth without words&nbsp;🌟 Help – Take initiative to support others&nbsp;🌟 Interact – Build real human connection&nbsp;🌟 Nurture – Foster a safe emotional space&nbsp;🌟 Elevate – Uplift through empathy &amp; kindness🔹 Why does this matter? Only 23% of employees feel they’re thriving at work (Gallup, 2023). But teams with high emotional well-being see:&nbsp;📈 21% higher productivity&nbsp;📉 41% lower absenteeismMental well-being isn’t just nice to have—it’s a business imperative.🔹 In practice:&nbsp;Try this → At your next team meeting, acknowledge a colleague’s effort. Smile with presence. Ask a genuine question. These micro-moments of positivity build resilience, trust, and engagement.🌱 Let’s move beyond stress management and toward strength cultivation. When we SHINE, we spark it in others too. #PositivePsychology #MentalWellbeing #LeadershipDevelopment #WorkplaceCulture #EmotionalIntelligence #PsychologicalSafety #SHINEmethod #HumanCenteredLeadership

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"I’m listening." You say it while typing an email. Your colleague shares a challenge—you nod absentmindedly. Your child asks a question—you respond while scrolling. But are you truly listening?In traditional Chinese, 聴 (tīng) means "to listen," but it carries wisdom far beyond hearing:耳 (Ear) — Receiving sound&nbsp; 目 (Eye) — Observing unspoken cues&nbsp; 心 (Heart) — Feeling intention&nbsp; 手 (Hand) + 口 (Mouth) — Engaging fully&nbsp; Listening isn’t just input—it’s presence. And presence requires mental toughness.<h3>&nbsp; The 4Cs of Listening Under Pressure</h3> Listening effectively—especially in high-pressure situations—requires the 4Cs of mental toughness:Control – Mastering Focus and Emotional RegulationControl in listening means staying calm and focused, even when the conversation is emotionally charged or fast-paced. The brain processes speech in real time, filtering distractions to maintain comprehension. Mentally tough individuals regulate their attention, override impulsive reactions, and remain present.Commitment – Engaging Fully and Following ThroughCommitment in listening is about deliberate presence and consistent action. High-performing leaders and professionals recognize that listening isn’t just about hearing words—it’s about absorbing meaning, responding with intention, and following through on what’s heard.Consider how top negotiators, elite coaches, and crisis managers operate. They don’t just listen to what’s said—they listen to what’s meant. In high-stakes environments, failing to truly commit to listening can cost deals, relationships, or opportunities.Challenge – Leaning into Discomfort and Seeking GrowthChallenge in listening is about being open to ambiguity, discomfort, and learning from conversations that push you beyond your comfort zone. Modern leaders face more uncertainty than ever.A survey by McKinsey (2024) on executive leadership found that 65% of top leaders actively seek dissenting voices in decision-making—knowing that constructive challenge leads to better outcomes. Meanwhile, top negotiators and crisis managers worldwide rely on deep listening to detect unspoken concerns, ensuring they anticipate rather than react.Confidence – Trusting Interpretation and Leading ConversationsConfidence in listening means trusting your ability to interpret nuances and guiding discussions with presence and conviction. It requires reading beyond words, recognizing hesitation, and leading conversations with clarity.Confidence in listening isn’t about waiting for clarity—it’s about creating clarity. Those who master this skill don’t just hear the obvious—they ask questions, lead conversations toward deeper insights, detect resistance before it becomes a barrier, and make people feel truly understood.Together, Control + Commitment define resilience, while Challenge + Confidence empower leadership in listening under pressure.<h3>&nbsp; Can AI Ever Replace This Kind of Listening?</h3> Artificial Intelligence can process speech, detect patterns, and analyze emotion. But can it sense the weight of silence? Can it feel the shift in energy when a leader truly listens?Technology may augment listening, but the essence of 聴—to listen with presence, intention, and awareness—remains deeply human.💬 What do you think? Has technology changed the way we listen, or does deep listening still require mental toughness?#Leadership #Coaching #MentalToughness #DeepListening #聴 #Resilience #AIandHumanConnection

聴: The Mental Toughness of Deep Listening

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聴: The Mental Toughness of Deep Listening