🎄 Alone for Christmas? It Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely

During a recent podcast, I found myself speaking on a topic I hadn’t expected: being alone for Christmas and New Year. Being away from my hometown, where holidays used to mean endless friends and family gatherings, I understand how different it can feel.

Alone ≠ Loneliness

Many people equate “alone” with “lonely,” but they are not the same. Loneliness is the emotional pain of disconnection, while solitude can be a chance for reflection, rest, and growth.

Research shows that the holiday season can intensify feelings of isolation, especially for those facing personal or family challenges. While suicide rates do not actually spike during the holidays (a common myth), the season can still be emotionally difficult. Loneliness is linked to higher risks of depression, anxiety, and even physical health issues such as cardiovascular disease.

The Social Media Trap

Studies reveal that heavy social media use doubles the risk of loneliness among adults. Passive scrolling for more than 30 minutes can leave us feeling more disconnected. The “don’t” here is clear: avoid endless scrolling. The “do” is to use digital platforms intentionally - connect with a friend, join a meaningful online group, or share something uplifting.

Taking Back Control

Self-awareness is key. Notice emotional triggers and ask yourself: How is this belief or habit limiting me in daily life? Then choose differently.

Here are some practical DOs and DON’Ts for the season:

DOs

- Structure your day with the “Happy DOSE” (the four feel-good brain chemicals):

• Dopamine: Set a small holiday goal (e.g., bake cookies, finish a book).
• Oxytocin: Call or meet a friend, or hug a loved one (hugging pets also counts).
• Serotonin: Take a walk in nature, enjoy sunlight (not that difficult if you are at the same part of the world as me).
• Endorphins: Dance to festive music or exercise, or try a short laughter therapy session
  

- Volunteer: Giving time boosts mental health and creates connection.

- Organize a gathering with others spending the holidays alone.

- Practice gratitude - write down three things you appreciate each day.

DON’T

• Don’t isolate completely; even short social interactions help.
• Don’t dwell on comparisons with others’ celebrations.
• Don’t give away your power by blaming circumstances - choose your response.

✨ Your Choices Shape Your Year

Your reaction shapes your outcome. You can feel sorry for yourself and spiral downward, or you can take responsibility and do something positive. 2026 will be a pivotal year — the choices we make now will be critical.

✨ My invitation: If you’re spending this holiday season alone, don’t see it as a deficit. See it as an opportunity to reconnect with yourself, to give, to grow, and to step into the flow of life.

Wishing everyone a season of resilience, joy, and new beginnings.